There’s a lot to unpack here. I disagree on nearly all your points because of one word: consent.
Consent is a verbal yes. Consent isn’t dressing “sexy” or a skirt, consent isn’t allowing a creepy hug because you don’t want to cause issues in a workplace you’re already an outsider from, consent isn’t using your body to sell a product. And if no consent is given then they are victims and us on the outside do not have right to say otherwise.
No consent was given for long hugs and a kiss on the lips, no consent was given for putting your hand on a knee of someone in a skirt. It may not be the degree that Weinstein, Cosby, Louis CK, or others went to but it is still harassement and there are victims.