I'm surprised that there even needs to be any sort of delineation of what "toxic" or "unacceptable" behavior toward theme park employees is.
Asking for employees' full/real names to follow them on SM - Unacceptable (really)
Investigating for the full/real name of an employee if you don't have it - Unacceptable
Seeking out employees with the sole intention of "watching" them as individuals and not as part of a performance - Unacceptable and absolutely toxic (and yes, there is a difference)
Engaging with employees beyond what the
employee finds comfortable - Unacceptable and toxic
Engaging with employees in a manner or to an extent that interferes with employees' ability to perform their job - Unacceptable
Everyone is different. Everyone has different expectations. The above instances, however, should be universally accepted as crossing a definite line between appropriate and inappropriate interactions. Also, it's important to recognize that EVERY THEME PARK EMPLOYEE IS A PERFORMER PERFORMING A ROLE. Performer and employee are interchangeable terms here. Even Matt Korn, Customer Relations Extraordinaire, was playing the role of approachable AP Holder representative. That big doofy grin everyone gives guests walking through the turn-style is part of an act. It may be easier for some who enjoy their job more, but just like we have to be approachable and friendly and agreeable at our jobs, they have to be even more so.
I'm sure that first "rule" is a bit jarring, so let me explain. Universal (except with the exception of Water World, evidently) does not present their performers as performers (refer to my
previous post). The reason for this is because "Universal" is the uniformed brand presented. The portfolios of individual performers isn't on display because it's not about the individual in a lot of these roles. Universal doesn't care about the "brand" or "prestige" of the individual any more than IHOP cares about how many Instagram followers their hostess has. Performers are filling a functionary role in a theme park. It's a job. They're not friends. Asking for their real or full name also encroaches into the last two "rules" about making employees uncomfortable and interfering with their work. Even if that particular employee doesn't mind it, a guest who does this is absolutely toeing the line.
Inevitably, someone is going to bring up other performers (TV and movie specifically). There is some validity in that. However, if the individual isn't searchable in IMDB or the role isn't found on Google, it should accepted as a lost cause because (to my previous point) if Universal wanted this information widely available they could make it so. Figuring out the real name of an employee shouldn't require an image search and facial recognition software. If it's not easy to find maybe they don't want people to know.
Here is a disappointing truth to keep in mind - For "featured" theme park performers, theme park shows and local theater productions (maybe an indie flick or commercial) will be their entire body of work. Wayne Brady is an exception, not a rule. Because of this, they have a vested interest in being friendly to everyone because if a guest complains that an employee was being a dick (right or wrong), that employee can lose their job and becoming persona non grata in Orlando. If an employee loses a job a one theme park, it puts them on uneasy footing at the others. The "brand" they need to be build is being nice; not being famous.
For the rank and file performers (scareactors and parade performers), it's a part-time job. Some of them are lawyers and teachers and bartenders. A lot are college students with other part-time jobs. A small (very small) percentage actually do heavy community theater work, but the vast majority (upwards 98%, I'd wager) do not have a brand or portfolio to build.
Working in a theme park is just like any other job that requires direct engagement with customers. They are REQUIRED to be nice and friendly and affable when they are working. They also have a vested interest in not being a dick on social media because, as we've seen numerous times, people's online personas are linked to perceptions of them on the job. Seeking out theme park employee's online essentially requires them to be "on-stage" 24-7. Look at Mike Aiello, who has made himself extremely approachable online as an extension of his job. In that capacity, he posts information and tidbits about what's coming. But when he posts about Orlando City or his new home, there will ALWAYS be some response asking about next year's HHN. That is someone essentially telling Mike to "do his job" when he's not at his job.
Imagine: A guest goes to Denny's. The waitress is friendly and smiling. Towards the end of the meal, the guest asks for the waitress' full name. The waitress (who thinks this is inappropriate but is concerned about tips and doesn't want a possible complaint) obliges. The guest goes home, finds the waitress on social media, and starts inundating her with questions about when her next shift is and what the specials are, and seeing where else she might work.
This is wildly inappropriate. We should all agree with that (and if you don't think that, or want to defend it, congrats on your addition to my "Don't be friends with this person" list). There is no difference between the waitress and the theme park employee. To say, "Well, I'm just a fan of Denny's food" doesn't justify it.