Yeah I let my 5 year old decide too, only I have the opposite issue, she is never a chicken. She happily walked into ToT even though I explained it to her and gave her options until we loaded into the ride to leave. Nope, she was going to ride it. She got freaked out on it and wouldn't go back on it. About 3 months later she decided to do it again. So she obviously didn't learn her lesson. So leaving it up to her might be a mistake lol
I am thinking I want to do Kong first, but I will be with her I think when Softs will be going on. Since it will just be me, I can't leave her in child swap by herself while I go on it. So she may ask to go on it. I think I should say no. But if I do the give her the option I am 90% sure she will say yes, let's go on. She LOVES bugs, so telling her their will be large, creepy bugs will just make her want to go on it more lol
She will hold on to us tightly during scary stuff, but she always wants to go back on it. Like Transformers she will hold on to me tightly, but she about had a fit coming out of the park on Sunday because we didn't get a chance to ride transformers. She calmed down pretty quickly and we moved on. But that tells you how much she will continue to go on stuff that does scare her.