While it seems like I missed the airing out of grievances party, as someone who’s been pretty opinionated on here (and, in general), I’m sorry in advance but I really need to get this off my chest.
I consider myself a Billie Eilish fan. Love her music, own her merch, I’ve even had a couple userpics of her in the past. I was genuinely excited for her possible inclusion in the event. I thought to myself “what a unique, different, interesting addition, can’t wait to see what they do!”...I now don’t want to see her at HHN at all.
I went from possibly having something I was really happy about happening to something I was actually dreading, due to the upset in this thread. I just don’t wanna see how much worse things will get if she’s included.
I completely agree with not being a fan of someone. I was vocal about my dislike of Rob Zombie, I disagree with his choices for his haunts and I could not get into House of 1,000 Corpses no matter how many times I watched it. But I didn’t say he didn’t belong. I didn’t imply A&D may not do their job adequately with his inclusion.
I never want to bring my gender into anything but, after this year, I can’t say it doesn’t matter on this forum anymore. I understand being a woman means I’m in the minority here. Due to the language used by some members, and a mod, it’s the reason why I try to steer clear of HNN now. I genuinely had no idea of the racism in The Purge, I don’t recall anybody speaking up about it once. Even The Invisible Man, it seems there could be more people that want it at HHN even knowing full well what it would represent.
But a teenage girl pop artist’s inclusion? It’s hard not to wonder if my gender doesn’t matter on a faceless forum anymore when some people can get so upset about Billie Eilish-but not about other things. Things that are much, much worse.
I’ve been attending HHN since 26 and every year I’ve gone I still haven’t been in every house they offer. Whether it’s for physical reasons (can’t see) or it’s simply for lack of interest (TWD, Blumhouse). I don’t think that’ll change this year either. Do I feel like I missed something spectacular? To me, no, because they weren’t for me and that’s ok. Does it make me less of a fan of HHN? Does it make my experience less impactful than someone else’s? I don’t think so, because I still had a great time anyway. Not everything in life is for me, after this season I’ve even considered whether all of this is for me, and even though that disappoints me-there’s nothing wrong with it.
I can’t recommend enough considering how you spend your time at HHN in the future. Consider if something is for you or not. If you don’t have any interest in something that’s totally fine. Maybe instead of saying that it doesn’t belong because of your personal distaste for it, you’ll concentrate more on the things you do like. What you want to see, what you want to experience. Instead of bringing A&D and whether they possibly can or cannot do their job to the best of their abilities into it, you’ll consider concentrating more on the things you personally feel more confidence in.
I know I’m far from innocent and I’m sure I’ve made more enemies than friends. I’ve never had to use the “ignore” button so much (and I’m sure I’m being ignored by many users here too, it’s ok, I don’t blame you) to the point where I can barely follow the conversation at all. I don’t wanna do that anymore.
I will be watching what I say, how I come across, and how I wanna voice my opinions here from now on and I hope that we’ll all try to do the same. If I’m wrong about any of the above statements, my inbox is open and I’m listening.